So......Now the fun begins;
Now that I began to reflect on how stale I was, I began to shape myself up. Where I once had a buzzcut head, now a full head of hair flourished. I used good products on my body and took extra special care of myself. I took the long showers, slept well, took notice of how I looked and felt and most importantly I decided to make an accurate description of myself. Where once I always wore sweatpants, jeans and good shirts now occupied my body. I wore good shoes, styled my hair, and groomed myself. I immeadiately was noticed by everyone around me and I felt great. I quit the humdrum job and looked for a job that would teach me new skills and bring about growth opportunities.
I took notice of my surroundings. My house was bland as it was the product of a stale woman. I decided to do small things to remove the ghost of my former life. While that process is far from complete, it is in full swing. Gone are the typical "home sweet home" placards and custom art work is slowly replacing the things I once found comfort in. Comfort is exactly what I don't want to feel. I need to challenge myself in every facet and being comfortable is the opposite of my goals.
I began to make friends again. This was near impossible during my married days since my spouse suffered from crippling anxiety and was suspicious of everyone. Any attempt to make friends was thwarted before the opportunity began. I started pushing myself forward like I used to and this was met with overwhelming success. I guess people really did like me after all. So did women as I began to learn.